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How to Self-Critique Without Being Critical About Your Fitness :014

How to Self-Critique Without Being Critical

Being self-critical is a very difficult habit to break when you have lived your life overweight and have become self-critical to pre-empt what others might criticize you for.


It can be done, though, and it needs to be done. It may seem contradictory but self-critique is necessary and even helpful. If you can not judiciously assess yourself, how do you know where health improvements can be made?


Now technically I should not be using “critique” and “critical” as if they stem from different words; but the truth is that colloquially we put different values on these words. To critique can be seen as a valuable thing- that your are picking out what needs to change for improvement. To be critical has a heavy tone to it; like a disapproving father who picks at everything that isn’t perfect. So make note, I’m using the colloquial definitions here, that I just illustrated.


Here’s how I made the shift to be able to Self-Critique without being Critical


I take an adult dance class two times per week. I started seeking this cross-training when I realized several years ago that I needed an activity that would help me train my body in coordination that would not exhaust me at the same time.


Ballet class is my gauge. I can tell where I am at in mental clarity, physical strength, flexibility and coordination each time I go to class.


It’s through challenging myself in the areas that are most difficult for me to learn (physical movement and coordination) where I learned to self-critique but not to be critical.


The goals and standards I create are my own; I’m not striving to live to anyone else’s ideals. I challenge myself, but am still caring towards myself.


This compassionate nature is what helps me to Self-critique without becoming Critical.


How to Self-Critique Without Being Critical


In this video of this podcast I am critiquing (and sharing these principles) as I resume a workout regime I have not done in months.


I Critique for improvement as opposed to being Critical which tears a person down.


Examples of the difference between Self-Critique and being Critical


First, as I Critique I Keep in Mind:

That I have not done this workout in months. “Just see where you’re at.”

The purpose of this workout is to help improve my strength for ballet. (Weight change and body-shape are positive benefits for me, but not goals.)

I will improve with consistency and applied feedback for improvement.

I will feel my body shift and change… perhaps in undesirable ways at first, but that it will lead to what I desire. (Soreness will lead to strength. Body mass increase (weight and size) will lead to toning.)

I note the positive things that might even surprise me: Wow! I can still do side plank with pretty good stability! I didn’t get as sore as I thought I might!


I Would be Being Critical if I Said to Myself:

It’s only been 6 months and you lost your form!

You can only do a couple suspended crunches per side!

Push yourself and do three sets… You need to get off on a big start!

Did you get the results yet? Go check!



Notice how you feel just reading these: Critiques vs. Being Critical!




How to Self-Critique Without Being Critical Tips:

Focus on creating healthy habits as your goal rather than a weight or a size. The habits more than likely will lead to the results you want anyways!

Cut out the pomp and circumstance! Make the healthy habit something you do normally; make it a normal thing in your life. When you make it an emotion-filled task you set yourself up for an equally emotional let-down if you don’t meet your objective.

Start moderately. Don’t burn yourself out at the start. Allow yourself to feel good; feel progress from the start!

Approach health and fitness with a light-hearted nature. Have fun! Find things you enjoy. Find the activity that is balancing for your Body-type. Take the Body-type Assessment (in the sidebar) to learn more.

Allow time and consistency to work their magic!

Notice where you’re critical of others. You’re likely ten times more critical of yourself in those areas. Then let go!

What if your objective were to learn to improve, rather than to accomplish?

Treat yourself like a beloved child who must learn this (a) particular lesson, and give him/her the patience, resources and time to learn, improve and make changes.


Wishing you Well-ness!